How to Reduce Screaming
Now we know WHY the screaming, how can we curb the screaming?
By practicing and strengthening the brain!
(You need to practice impulse control to build impulse control.)
The bottom line is, so many of the skills you teach will depend on your child and their needs.
By allowing your
toddler to brainstorm with you, they are more likely to:
Flex that brain by playing Volume Up, Volume Down.
(Bonus: toddlers loooove games!)
First, turn up the volume.
Practice getting relly, really, REALLY loud on purpose. Yup - jumping up and down screaming and shouting!
Then, turn the volume down.
Get sooooo quiet - right down to a tiny little whisper.
You can play this game with a song (quite literally turn the volume up, then turn it down!), with animal
sounds (go from the ROAR of a lion to the litttttle squeak of a mouse), or with your natural voice
(shout, then whisper!).
Kids learn best through real-life experiences. When you practice getting loud then quiet IRL, you’re giving
your kid a safe opportunity to build the part of their brain that helps notice and manage noise levels. Over
time, this can become REAL impulse control.
Remember, like any teaching moment with your toddler, make sure you do this during a calm moment -
*not* in the heat of a screaming fit or tantrum. Learning can’t happen in times of heightened emotions!
But when they practice at a calm time, they strengthen that area of their brain, making that little muscle
stronger and more easily accessible over time and during those (inevitable) tough moments.
And of course, know that they’re still going to be loud and scream sometimes - it’s just part of toddlerhood,
and it’s actually a sign of healthy brain development. Progress over perfection, yes? Yes!