When you think about it, parents and coaches have a lot in common:
Both help their players get better at the game (of soccer, football - or, you know, LIFE).
Both serve as guides and mentors, helping solve problems and see the big picture.
Both have a tendency to use quotes and inspirational speeches as motivators.
But a biiiiiiiiig difference between parents and coaches—besides the obvious lack of a paycheck and
championship rings—is the way they approach the concept of time-outs.
Picture a sporting event with us for a moment. Now, look over to the sideline as the coach calls a time-out.
What do you see?
Well, there’s the coach bringing the team into a huddle. He’s kneeling down in the middle of them. Oh, there’s
his trusty whiteboard. Looks like he’s explaining something to them, giving them a new play, and now he’s
getting them hyped to go back out on the field.
Nothing out of the ordinary or unusual there.
But what if we replay the scenario with one small change?
This time, the coach calls time-out, and as soon as the players arrive on the sideline,
he sends them all to
different places in the stadium.
Well, that’s weird. Didn’t he call the time out to help his team regroup? How are they going to know what to
do if he doesn’t tell them?
Now the team is back on the field and making the same mistakes. This makes exactly ZERO SENSE.
And yet, isn’t this second scenario exactly how we, as parents, use time-outs?
Our kid misbehaves, and instead of “bringing it in,”
we send them away with instructions to “think about what they did”
and learn what to do instead.
Uggggggh. We know it feels like we just intercepted your go-to discipline strategy. And we totally understand
if you want to throw a flag for unnecessary roughness. But before you do, promise you’ll give us a chance to
explain where we’re coming from?!