If you’re fed up with bedtime battles, you aren’t alone. We get multiple emails and DMs every day from
parents just like you who are tired of the nightly struggles.
With these three tips, you’ll be able to
reduce the bedtime pushback and tantrums and take one step closer to having your own sweet—and
Limit the Screens
If your toddler seems extra-hyped at bedtime, despite being all kinds of active during the day, screen time
might be the cause.
The blue light from screens (iPads, phones, TVs, and so on) tells the toddler brain, “IT’S TIME TO BE AWAKE!”
The brain responds by releasing “awake” signals to the body, and suddenly your toddler is running laps around
the living room. And if you do manage to wrangle them into their bed, no amount of stories, soothing music,
or back rubs can get their eyes to close.
In order to prepare their brains for sleep,
it’s important to end screen time at least two hours before
bedtime. That’ll allow their brains to send the sleepy-time melatonin their bodies need to fall asleep.
And if the thought of going cold-turkey on screens for two hours before bedtime makes you twitchy, don’t
Reduce screen time in 15-minute increments over the course of a few days until your toddler can
go without for the full two hours prior to bedtime. (Get baller tips for managing screen time-related
meltdowns over here.)
Set the Scene
Along with limiting screen time, you can also prepare your toddler for bed by setting up a calm environment
About an hour ahead of time, begin getting the house ready for bed by closing the blinds, dimming or
turning off extra lights, and playing calm music. Pull out your favorite calming essential oils and diffuse
When you consistently use these cues, your toddler’s brain will begin to recognize, “Oh, the room is dimmer,
I’m hearing soft music, and it smells different in here. It’s time to start calming down!” It seems like magic, but
it’s actually science, and we’re here for that all.day.long.
Pair these environmental cues with quiet activities like coloring or reading, and your little one’s body will be
primed and ready to burrow under the sheets at bedtime.
Give Them Some Power
Wait, whaaaaaaat? Are you saying I should put power...in my toddler’s hands....at bedtime? Are you trying to
give me nightmares?
Yes to the power, no to the nightmares.
Toddlers crave power—it’s hard-wired into their brains. We knew it from the first time our lil cherubs
shouted, “I DOOOOO ITTTTTT MINESELLLLLLLLLLLFFFFFF.”
So instead of fighting their desire for control, we’re going to give them juuuuuuust the right amount to help
them feel part of the bedtime routine. Trust us: They’re much more willing to transition from playtime to
bedtime if they have some control over how it all goes down.
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